"Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never harm me."

Cute rhyme. Powerful lie.

Especially when the words you’re flinging like invisible daggers are aimed at yourself.

Self-talk isn’t just some pop-psychology buzzword—it’s your brain’s default script, silently shaping how you see yourself, your worth, and your world. It’s the background noise that either fuels your soul... or slowly erodes your power.

Let’s get real:
You talk to yourself constantly. And if you’re like most high-achieving women I coach, that voice is rarely kind. It’s sharp. Relentless. Judgmental. Often masquerading as “realism” or “motivation,” but in reality? It’s your Inner Critic on autopilot.

What Is Self-Talk, Anyway?

Psychology Today defines self-talk as a blend of conscious thoughts and unconscious beliefs and biases—basically, how your brain interprets and processes your daily experiences.

But I like to say it like this:
Self-talk is your soul’s current PR team.
And for many women? That team is toxic, underpaid, and overworked.

Why? Because your Shadow Queen (that fierce, wounded part of you that’s been shaped by survival) often trained your Inner Critic to keep you “safe.” That means criticizing before anyone else can. Shrinking before anyone notices your light. And talking to yourself in ways you’d never talk to someone you love.

Your Brain Is Listening

Here’s where it gets wild: your brain takes language literally. The stories you repeat—especially the ones you’re not even aware you’re telling—become your operating system.

Every “I’m such an idiot”
Every “Why do I always screw this up?”
Every “No one cares what I think anyway”
…lays down a neural groove your brain then follows on autopilot.

This isn’t just mindset. It’s mental programming. And that means it’s also changeable.

The Inner Critic vs. The Truth

When your Inner Critic whispers (or screams) something cruel, it often feels like truth. But it’s not truth—it’s a strategy. An outdated one. Designed to protect you from rejection, failure, or even visibility.

But if you’re ready to reclaim your power and become the woman you’re meant to be—your Divine Guide needs to rewrite the damn script.

Try This Trinity-Inspired Self-Talk Shift:

1. Pause + Breathe
   Inhale through your nose, exhale through your mouth. Interrupt the spiral.

2. Name the Voice
   Is this your Inner Critic speaking? Your Shadow Queen? Or your Divine Guide?

3. Reframe with Truth + Compassion
   Instead of “I’m such an idiot,” try:

   “I notice I’m feeling embarrassed. I made a mistake, and that’s human. I’m learning.”

          Instead of:

“No one cares what I have to say.”
Try:
“I have something valuable to share. My voice deserves space.”

Real Talk: This Work Is Simple—But Not Easy

These shifts might feel clunky at first. But language shapes reality. This is how we alchemize shame into sovereignty. This is how we stop reinforcing the trauma loops we’ve unknowingly inherited.

In my Trinity Transformation™ mastermind, we go deep into this. We unmask the Shadow Queen. We unhook the Inner Critic. And we activate your Divine Guide—the voice of truth, wisdom, and sacred leadership that’s been waiting for you to listen.

So... What’s Your Inner Dialogue Really Saying?

Here’s a mini self-reflection to get you started:

Rate yourself from 1 (rarely) to 10 (constantly):

• How often do I feel anxious or self-critical in a day?

• Do I take time to understand what I’m feeling—or do I just push through?

• Do I notice how I speak to myself when I make a mistake?

• Have I ever questioned whether my self-talk actually belongs to me—or someone else?

• How often do I consciously reframe negative thoughts?

If this reflection surprised you—or you’re realizing your Inner Critic is a little too loud—it might be time to do something different.

Ready to Reclaim Your Inner Voice?

Your self-talk can either keep you stuck in survival mode or usher you into sacred success. If you’re ready to stop spiralling and start rising, I invite you to book a free Intuitive Strategy Reading with me.

We’ll uncover where your Inner Critic is running the show—and how to reconnect with the wisdom of your Divine Guide so you can lead your life from truth, not trauma.

Book your free session here

Here’s to your voice.
Here’s to your power.
Here’s to you. 👑

Mahara