Mahara Wayman [00:00:05]:
Welcome to the art of badassery where I explore what it takes to live life on your own terms. Break free from the status quo and unleash your inner badass. Whether you're a rebel at heart or simply seeking inspiration to step outside your comfort zone, this podcast is for you. I'm your host, Mahara Wayman. And each week, I dive into the stories, insights, and strategies of those who've mastered the art of badassery and are living life to the fullest. They smile when no one is lucky. Welcome to another episode of the art of badassery podcast where we delve deep into the lives of extraordinary individuals Who've harnessed their unique experiences and passions to craft a badass existence. I'm your host, Mahara Wayman.
Mahara Wayman [00:00:57]:
Today, we have A truly beautiful lady with us today, Jenna Brocious, a woman with an inspiring journey to share. Jenna wears multiple hats with grace and flair. She's a loving wife, a devoted mother, and a spiritually intuitive soul. Her quest for self discovery led her down a path filled with twists and turns as she sought to define her purpose beyond the boundaries of her home. With the unwavering support of her husband, Jenna embarked on a profound voyage of introspection guided by prayer to unearth her true calling. Raised by a single mother and only discovering her father at 36, Jenna's life has been a tapestry of trials and tribulations. She often quips that her mother was a blueprint for what not to do in life, gifting her invaluable life lessons from a tender age. Her resilient shone through as she chose to transform adversity into opportunity, proving that her upbringing didn't dictate her destiny.
Mahara Wayman [00:02:00]:
Life handed her lemons, and in true Beyonce fashion, she turned them into sweet, refreshing lemonade. You guys are gonna love this woman. Jenna has always been an outlier, never entirely fitting into the mold of societal norms. Yet as she blossomed into adulthood, She accepted and embraced her uniqueness, transforming what made her different into her greatest strength. Hailing from the vibrant city of Scottsdale, Jenna finds Soulless and joy in meditation. Her story, really, it's a testament to the power of personal growth and the beauty that can emerge When one embraces one's individuality. So join us today as we explore her journey, her passion for healing, and her unwavering commitment to spreading love and positivity in a world that sorely needs it. This episode promises to be Really incredibly uplifting, filled with wisdom, resilience, and, of course, the art of embracing one's badassery.
Mahara Wayman [00:03:00]:
Grab your favorite drink and stay tuned. Jenna, welcome to the show. So happy to have you here.
Jenna Brocious [00:03:07]:
Your intro Your intro was so beautiful. Thank you for having me. I you your words are just beautiful. I love them. Thank you.
Mahara Wayman [00:03:15]:
You are so welcome. And who is that on your lap?
Jenna Brocious [00:03:19]:
I have a little girl named Miss Birdie.
Mahara Wayman [00:03:23]:
So adorable.
Jenna Brocious [00:03:24]:
My little goldendoodle.
Mahara Wayman [00:03:26]:
Those of you that are listening to the audio, you may wanna hop over to YouTube and watch the video because she's got the most adorable puppy on her lap. But, Jenna, let's go back to the beginning. And I'm curious if you can take us back to a time When you sort of looked around your world and went, okay. Wait a second. This isn't actually good enough.
Jenna Brocious [00:03:49]:
Yeah. My first memory of that is actually I was 6 years old. My mom had just married her first husband, And we moved away from where I've been raised pretty much my whole life. We moved to Portland, Oregon, and I saw my mom physically abused for the 1st time, and I can still, as a child, very vividly remember that moment. And that is the moment that I realized what was going on around me was not for me.
Mahara Wayman [00:04:14]:
How does a 6 year old navigate that?
Jenna Brocious [00:04:21]:
You know, I would still love to know. It's deep down in there somewhere, but I'm trying to heal it as I grow into a mother. And And I think becoming a mother has been a big process of me healing my childhood as well.
Mahara Wayman [00:04:32]:
I hear that quite a bit, and I've certainly experienced that myself as I'm a mother of of 2 grown children. But what I what I think is interesting and what I'd love to to sort of delve into is, Obviously, 6 is very little. That was your 1st wake up call that things Could be uncomfortable in in the in life, and that's you know, you began to learn what you don't want. You don't want the anger, the fear, The licking, the beatings, or, you know, you don't wanna witness the violence. As you got older Yeah. How did Did that translate into any behavior of your own, or were you always just shutting it down and and looking at it from afar?
Jenna Brocious [00:05:18]:
I've always been shutting it down and looking at it from afar. I have had zero interest in ever Experiencing that for myself, I'm very lucky. I picked a man well, I picked a man that I knew wouldn't do it to me, but I love my husband for the reason we don't say something we can't take back. And we've lived that way for the last 12 years, And I feel very blessed to have made the right decision in the man that I married because that is that he we are aligned in how we wanna live and how we treat each other, which I think is So important.
Mahara Wayman [00:05:51]:
So important. So going back to the intro, your mom, you learned from an early age what you didn't want in a partner.
Jenna Brocious [00:06:00]:
Yes.
Mahara Wayman [00:06:01]:
Okay. The other thing I think that's really interesting about what you just said was this idea of we you and your husband don't say things that you can't take back. I often find with clients and in my own world that there is such power in our language That when we can learn to harness the power of language, we have more control about how we, talk about our problems or our challenges. So When was when did you first realize that you were that powerful with the words that you chose?
Jenna Brocious [00:06:33]:
Well, I would not say that journey's been an easy one for me because I've quite a mouth on me, and I'm Very sassy. But I would say into my later twenties after, you know, softening off at work and getting fired on the spot or just having those, like, Interactions with people where I learned that my mouth did not work for me. I had to zip it a little bit more. But the older I got, the easier it got to learn how to control myself and my temper and my feelings and my emotions. And now really before I want to have any conversation with my husband if I'm upset or stirring over something, I really almost need a day to think through my thoughts and my process Before I deliver my message, because I just wanna be so clear and precise on how I feel and what that did to me and so on, But now I take a lot of time before I speak because I just wanna be very clear when I do speak.
Mahara Wayman [00:07:30]:
That's fantastic because clarity is everything. You know, if we don't understand what we're feeling, and how can we talk about it?
Jenna Brocious [00:07:41]:
A 100%. And for me, it's more of clarifying that emotion that I'm feeling. And what is that emotion really? Am I angry? Am frustrated? Am I sad? Am I hurt? And so for me, I just really need that introspectual time to go in and be like, okay. I'm hurt, and this is why I'm hurt, And then I'll talk about it. But until I get to that place, I really don't like to talk anymore. Yourself.
Mahara Wayman [00:08:00]:
What's one of the biggest things that you've learned about yourself In this in this recognition that maybe the mouth runs off a little bit too much, or maybe you need to take time.
Jenna Brocious [00:08:09]:
I just heard me being saucy and saying what's on my My mind and my tongue in that minute has never paid off well for me. So I I started to recognize the negatives that were happening when I was doing that, and I just had to learn to stop because wasn't serving me at all.
Mahara Wayman [00:08:26]:
No. You bring up a really interesting point because a lot of what I talk about and this podcast is about is owning our truth. You know? I feel that we're badass when we can be honest about what we're how we're feeling. But that doesn't mean, to your point, running your mouth off in anger or fear or disappointment or judgment or resentment Because that's that's there there's a difference. Right? There's a difference, and it sounds like you've had some experience that really proved that to you that you know, Telling your boss to take a hike with lots of expletives because he's an idiot didn't serve you in that moment because you lost your job if that's in fact what happened. I kinda made a guess there.
Jenna Brocious [00:09:07]:
Yeah. No. Totally true. A 100%. Yeah.
Mahara Wayman [00:09:09]:
It's almost as if we need to be reminded that being a badass isn't Being a bitch. It's being Correct. Honest about who you are. Right? So I know that there's a you know, for some of us, There's a connotation that if you're a badass, you're you're looking for trouble, you're, you know, You're a criminal, and you got tattoos, and you ride a Harley, and, you know, that's kind of a, an old fashioned way or a a generational way of looking at the term. But I really do think, And the way that I use the term, today is completely different. You know? It's all about being honest about who you are. So it's totally okay to be upset with your boss. Right? If if and it's totally okay to know, boy, that guy is really disrespecting me.
Mahara Wayman [00:09:55]:
But you still need to know how to handle the situation. Right? Doesn't have to be with daggers, right, or a fist or
Jenna Brocious [00:10:04]:
Yeah. And I think I only at first saw my mom fight with daggers because she She would most of the time be drunk at that point when the fights would begin, and the words and the hurt that would just pour out of them were just devastating to me. And it even wasn't even directed at me by any means. So I was just it was also something I knew deep down I never wanted My family to experience and my children to experience was that that meanness that you can never take back that really does leave a winter in that wound for a long time, and I just didn't feel that that was something that I wanted to create outside of my myself.
Mahara Wayman [00:10:41]:
How did you grow from that? Like, how did you go from being the kid with the mom that's taught her everything not how not to be? And I just wanna say, being a mom is the hardest thing ever, and I'm you know, we all do our best with what we have in the moment. But how did you get to a place where you can Talk about it with such love and acceptance. What was what happened in between then and now?
Jenna Brocious [00:11:03]:
So I got pregnant, And I thought maybe my mom would show up for the 1st time like she hasn't before because I'm the 1st I'm the oldest, and I'm the one with the 1st grand child, so I thought maybe, you know, she'll really put in an effort this time. And I got disappointed all over again when she wasn't calling or asking he's doing or, you know, so on about just my health and the baby. And my husband looked at me one day and he said, you can't hold her to an expectation that she she did not agree to. And my mind blew because that was just the most perfect way of putting it because I had a story in my head of how I wanted my mother to show up for me, but that was not my mother and nor did she agree to that circumstance. So that really changed everything for me and really started my whole healing process because I had to realize That I was holding her to a standard that she didn't agree to. She got pregnant when she was 22, unwed, and kinda just had no choice but to have me. So she didn't really sign up for this whole motherhood thing, so why was I expecting her to make crafts and cookies for me when that wasn't her? So once I was really able to move past that moment, and then I got to really, like, think about her upbringing And where did she come from? She didn't have it easy. My grandma was a very mean person.
Jenna Brocious [00:12:23]:
And so I then started to have a lot of compassion and empathy for her because I then understood she did the best with what she had. And I have to just I have to accept that, and I have to move forward with And I do think that her teaching me what not to do in life was just as beneficial as somebody teaching me how to live my life. So at the end of this day, I can look back with, like, great ease and love and compassion for my childhood and for her because at the Same we were 2 kids trying to raise each other at the end of the day, and we did the best we could.
Mahara Wayman [00:13:00]:
What I like so much about your story is And I think it leads into this understanding that our our true happiness comes from within, that we when we stop looking for validation from the outside, how does my mom treat me? How does my boss treat me? How does my boyfriend treat me? How do I look to the world? When we stop looking for validation from all the outside things, then it's so much easier just Have our head up and go, you know what? I'm deserving. It's it's it's quite magical, actually, and I love that your husband made that comment because it's brilliant. We wouldn't expect A tie our children to speak to us in a foreign language because they don't know that language. So why are we saying, oh, for god's sakes, that's not French. You're You're not speaking French to me? Well, I don't know French, actually. Thanks. So it's kind of similar. It's like, your mom doesn't that's she didn't sign up for that.
Mahara Wayman [00:13:56]:
That's not she doesn't have the ability to be that person. It doesn't mean that she's not deserving. It doesn't mean that you're not deserving. It just means that you're speaking a different language based on your upbringing and your needs.
Jenna Brocious [00:14:08]:
Yeah. Yeah. I mean, I love her now, and we still have Kind of a touch and go relationship, but I really just kinda let it be on her terms at this point. And when she reaches out or she wants something, I'm I'm here to Helping communicate, but for me, that healthy boundary is just really, really not a lot of relationship within us. And, for me, that works, and I'm okay, and I'm comfortable with that. So I think there's a different story for everybody on how you handle parents like that, but I've just learned To love her for who she is and just kinda move on with my own life because I can't let her hold me back anymore.
Mahara Wayman [00:14:45]:
Now that's badass folks, and that takes a lot of, Well, I don't wanna say it takes a lot of effort because for some people, it may not. But, really, that is the work of navigating being a human. Right? It's learning how to question, get clear, forgive if necessary, Understand the difference between judgment and nonjudgment and being open to being happy. And what I'm hearing is that right from the get go, you were open to being a happy person because you're like, oh, you know what? That doesn't make me happy, so I'm not gonna do that. I don't want that in my life because this is uncomfortable. And I think that's a really important thing to to call out. So for those of you listening, ask yourself. Am I willing to be happy? Am I really willing to step into whatever all of the greatness that's that's here for me, or is it easier for me to hold on to the hurt and the anger? So just a little side note for you.
Jenna Brocious [00:15:44]:
I had to I wanted to I wanted to forgive her because I wanted my own peace at the end of the day. And so for me, I had to find forgiveness, and that came within the empathy of understanding her childhood. So I wanted to move forward with peace in my life, and I I feel very grateful that I was able to recognize it and find it and move forward with it. So I'll keep you posted. We're still in the beginning. This is a journey that never ends. Well
Mahara Wayman [00:16:10]:
and please do. And here, you know, that's. It's so honest for you to say that because I think many of us go when we decide to to go on a journey of personal growth, for example, For myself, there was this idea that, oh, if I decide to do this, then life is gonna be perfect. Like, everything is gonna get fixed. When I figure out when I get clear on my stories, When I learned to forgive and be all of these things, then all of a sudden, it's like a light switch is gonna go on. But that's not realistic, folks. So Personal journey, you never get off the road. Once you jump on it, you really don't because you you just jump up to the next level of understanding and awareness.
Mahara Wayman [00:16:48]:
And with that awareness comes a whole new set of, oh my god. I had no idea. And then you're like, okay. And you learn the lesson. You learn the lesson. And the minute you The minute you agree to step up and learn the lesson, oh my god. The universe throws it at you. Hey, Maher.
Mahara Wayman [00:17:04]:
You need to learn the forgiveness. There's There's a great opportunity, and you're like, I thought I learned this already. Why is this coming back to me? So it really is the never ending journey. But if you can open yourself yourself in your heart to the process. It really is quite magical. I'm so curious, though. You mentioned meditation. When how old were you when you got into meditation? Because I'm all I'm into it myself.
Mahara Wayman [00:17:28]:
And I'd just like to talk to you about your experience with it.
Jenna Brocious [00:17:31]:
I Started meditating in my mid twenties. So I've been meditating, like, 13 years now, and it is just the place of calmness and peace. And I was gonna say this earlier. I think that we look at the outside world for all the answers. And from my own personal experience, when I truly dove into myself and given myself that time and space, I actually find all the answers are within me the whole time. So me trying to talk to a medium or a psychic or a card reader or tell me what this is gonna do or how my future is gonna be, I just realized at the end of the day that it was all within me, and the minute I gave myself that opportunity to listen, it came.
Mahara Wayman [00:18:13]:
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Mahara Wayman [00:19:07]:
And this is the question is Okay. That sounds great, but how do you know it's in you? Like, how do you know? Because you sit quietly. You think about it. You get clear. And it's so difficult to quiet the monkey mind as they call it. That is it the first thing that comes to my mind or the last thing? Am I thinking this because that's what that's what my best friend mentioned to me, or is it that? You know? So there's definitely a level of trust, I think, that comes with meditation. And I'm wondering if it took you a while to discover that level of trust because just because there's so much noise when we first start practice.
Jenna Brocious [00:19:45]:
Oh, yeah. I think that for years, I had no idea that that was part of meditation was actually hearing hearing whatever I was supposed to hear because I was still Looking at the outside world for all of the answers. And once I just got so frustrated with not finding the answer, I just had to give myself this time to really sit. And so my husband let me take 6 months off of work. He's like, fit figure out what you wanna do. Obviously, where you are is not working out for you. So let's just give you the time to really, like, Move forward in a big way, whatever way that is. And so I was just for 6 months, I sat on the floor of my office, and I would cry and I journal and I would meditate.
Jenna Brocious [00:20:24]:
And I just remember one day, like, just the sensation of, like, I'm gonna cry. The love and the warmth, and it was like God telling me what my prayer cards were supposed to be. And my prayer cards I mean, he showed me the image of what They looked like I don't know. It's just like such a warm, beautiful sensation that I knew that God had put that on my heart to make that happen. And I have to say he did it again when it came to my book is that that topic everybody needs to know about and read about. And so, like, I just felt that warm needed sensation all over again when the book idea came that I knew that that was my next step. So when I start to get Nancy, and I'm like, where am I going? What am I doing? I really very intentionally give myself a lot of quiet time at home when nobody's here To allow myself to sit and listen.
Mahara Wayman [00:21:14]:
Such good advice. Not always easy to do, But really and and I've had a very similar experience. And what I've learned over the years is when the ideas come to me easily, And I I kinda like, oh, well, that can't be important because it's too easy. I stop myself and I go, wait a second. If it's easy, that's because it's that's my instinct. I just know. I just know. And if I don't understand the message, then I'm also very visual.
Mahara Wayman [00:21:42]:
I put it off I just put it in a bubble and say, Bring it back to me when I'm ready for it. And I this was I I started doing this years before I even really realized what I was doing, but it was this Recognition. Okay. That's that's good, but I don't quite understand it yet. I don't know what to do with it, so I'm just gonna put it off to the side and Ask that you bring it back to me when I'm ready for it, when I actually have the answer or I know the next step. So Trusting your instinct is a huge component of being badass. And I think what comes with it is this recognition that, as you said earlier, I have all the answers inside. I may not I may not be able to access access them, but I have them because I'm a child of the universe.
Mahara Wayman [00:22:30]:
I'm a child of God. I'm a spiritual being having a human existence. So okay.
Jenna Brocious [00:22:34]:
Well and the really cool thing about oh, one One second. The really cool thing about it too is with the prayer cards, like, them being produced happens so fast and so easy that I also knew that was a sign from the universe because when things just start that momentum and then they unfold, there was no hard there was no hard work in any of the things that I did. It just naturally, beautifully unfolded. So that's also goosebumps gives me a sign that that's the universe, you know, taking care of what was supposed to happen anyway, so I love it.
Mahara Wayman [00:23:04]:
I love it to be it. Before we get into all the things that you're doing today, I wanna go back to you said you took 6 months off of work and just sat in your office and pride and journaled and and discovered, but still. What were you doing at that time? What type of work were you doing? I was doing real estate. Yeah.
Jenna Brocious [00:23:21]:
I was doing real estate, and I was also, working with Airbnb's on interior design.
Mahara Wayman [00:23:28]:
Nice.
Jenna Brocious [00:23:29]:
And And it just wasn't really that spot.
Mahara Wayman [00:23:33]:
How did you know? Like, what was the feeling? Because I I know that many of our listeners are gonna be able to relate to this because that's why I left the corporate world. It wasn't filling it wasn't filling my cup. But I'm curious how what it how it resonated in your life that you went, this isn't right. Can you think of a specific time?
Jenna Brocious [00:23:53]:
You might kinda laugh at me when I Tell you this, but I've always wanted to be a superstar and famous and, like, all of the things. And so I just knew that that wasn't gonna do it for me. I don't know. It was just this very, like, intuitive inside gut feeling that this This isn't what I'm supposed to be doing. Granted, I also didn't know what I was supposed to be doing, but I knew what I was doing at the time was still not my purpose, my divine purpose, whatsoever.
Mahara Wayman [00:24:20]:
It's interesting because as you were saying that, I thought to myself, she has mirrored what not to do. Just like she watched her mom do things that she didn't want, you ended up doing things that showed you what you don't want. And, actually, that's a very smart way of figuring out what it is that you do want. If you give yourself permission to go Yeah. Okay. I'm experiencing this, and I actually don't like it that much. So this is not for me. That's now you know.
Mahara Wayman [00:24:46]:
Right? This is for you. So that's fantastic. So 6 6 months off of that, then what did you do after you Realized no to yes to what did you say yes to? Hit.
Jenna Brocious [00:25:02]:
COVID hit and changed everything. So I, you know, didn't do anything until fall of September 2020, I really was able to actually sit down and write my prayer cards and start producing them, but I just held on for a while there.
Mahara Wayman [00:25:18]:
Alright. So talk to me about prayer cards. What do you mean by that?
Jenna Brocious [00:25:22]:
So I have 8 different prayer cards. There's Peace, love, positivity, grief, worthiness, strength, change, and I just added a travel prayer card for the kids this summer. And they're just topics that I feel like sometimes we don't have the words to pray, and so I just wanted people to have the words to pray without having to think about it. Like, I hung out with a whole bunch of amazing badass women that were worthy, but they didn't see their worthiness. And so the worthy prayer card is very special to me Because I wanted other women to know how amazing and worthy they are. And so that one's special, and then there's a little bible verse at the bottom that correlates with the prayer I wrote. And so There's this 8 different topics, and they're all sold individually, but it's just from my heart. And so to be able to produce something from my heart that people love is just So fulfilling that I feel lucky.
Mahara Wayman [00:26:12]:
That's so beautiful. Is there artwork on one side of the prayer card? Is it like a Or is it show you. Yeah. Let's show us. And, guys, there's gonna be a link in the So So
Jenna Brocious [00:26:25]:
that's the peace prayer card, and then this is the prayer that's the prayer I wrote, and then there's the bible verse that correlates with it. And they're like, the size of a credit cards so they can go in your wallet, in your pocket. Some people put them in the back of their phone case. So it's I love when people send me pictures of new ways they're using the card. It makes my heart happy.
Mahara Wayman [00:26:42]:
Oh, I love that so much. Okay. So you have written, prayer cards. You mentioned a book. Can you talk to us a bit about your book?
Jenna Brocious [00:26:51]:
Yeah. So I'm writing a book on generational trauma. I only ever saw my mom cheat on somebody or be cheated on herself. And so most of my life, our relationships with us pack up and leave. Pack up and leave. We've gotta move. We've gotta get out of here. All these, like, constant moving pieces.
Jenna Brocious [00:27:10]:
And I was 9 years into my marriage, and I'm like, when is he gonna cheat on me?
Mahara Wayman [00:27:15]:
When is he gonna cheat on me?
Jenna Brocious [00:27:16]:
This is gonna have to the ball is gonna drop. When is he gonna on me, you know, and I'm having this mental battle in my head for 2 years of my marriage is great. Everything is good. This is not the man I married, but why do I still have the story playing in my head. And one day, I just realized that that was not my story to carry. It is my mother's story, and that is my grandmother's story, but that's not my story. And so I'm just writing about, like, acknowledging it, my childhood, And, really, how do I overcome and how am I moving forward in my marriage? Again, you got me today crying.
Mahara Wayman [00:27:52]:
You're being vulnerable, and I And I honor that, and I thank you for your vulnerability. It's so powerful when we recognize That we have stories. Because until you recognize that there's a story, you can't change it or you can't change your relationship with it. So I really honor you for that that understanding that this is my mom's story, and it doesn't have to be mine. Doesn't have to be mine. And for all of you listening, if there's if if you have a story that doesn't work for you, recognize that. And ask yourself, okay. If it doesn't work for me, then I choose not to, then what does work for me? What would I want my story to be? And in your case, Jenna, you know, I you want your story to be that you're married to the most amazing man, and he's never gonna leave you.
Mahara Wayman [00:28:41]:
You have a beautiful family and, You know, the complete opposite of perhaps what you what your story was. So thank you for sharing, and I just really honor you for that journey because that, to me, is one of the hardest things is to recognize that we have a story. Because most of us grow up going, it's just the way it is. My dad's an ass. My mom's a bitch. You know? I don't I hate school. Like, all I I'm bad at this. I'm good at that.
Mahara Wayman [00:29:07]:
I you know, all we tell stories all the time. And what I say to my clients is, if it doesn't work for you, let's talk about it and figure out why you're telling it. Why are you still telling it if it doesn't work for you? And as you and I both know, there's lots of things that go on in our childhood That may have start that's where the story starts. But I love that you're not telling that story to yourself anymore and that you have found a way to honor your greatness And that whisper from God that this is what you need to do. And when we tune into that, man, life is beautiful. Right? It doesn't take away that, you know, the dogs need to get walked or the bills need to get paid or I don't feel so good today. I got and, you know, I've got a cold or But still life is so beautiful. So you are writing a book on generational trauma.
Mahara Wayman [00:29:59]:
Any idea when we can expect to have that book available?
Jenna Brocious [00:30:03]:
I am about 40,000 words away from no. 42,000 words away from being done. Okay. I don't know. I did the math, but I got a while. I got a ways to go, but I I will say this. The universe is letting the words flow out of me, And that's
Mahara Wayman [00:30:23]:
that. So beautiful. Being in flow is so important. Mhmm. Really, not very easy to do off you know, especially when we get creative and we have ideas. I know what that's like. I want it done yesterday. But when we have patience and we can sit with our sit with our passions, then, You know, we can trust ourselves, so that's beautiful.
Mahara Wayman [00:30:43]:
Something for us to look forward to, folks. Have you titled the book?
Jenna Brocious [00:30:46]:
I don't know. I don't think so.
Mahara Wayman [00:30:49]:
Okay. No.
Jenna Brocious [00:30:49]:
I don't think so. I mean, he gave me the god gave me the image of what the book front is supposed to look like, But I don't know if there's a name yet because generational trauma can't be the name. I don't know. Overcoming grief. I mean, honestly, when I sat my has been down to tell him that these have been my thoughts for 2 years, and I've been hiding them from him because I had so much guilt and so much shame in just having the thoughts That I was I mean, it was a very terrifying thing to come out to my husband and say, I think you're gonna cheat on me. I'm gonna cheat on you, and he's like, you know better. That's not us. And I'm like, I know.
Jenna Brocious [00:31:25]:
But, like, I walked around with that weight on my shoulders for 2 years mortified to be honest with husband about it when I know it's not our story.
Mahara Wayman [00:31:34]:
You are some kind of badass, really. Well, here's the thing. You're not alone. So many of us Hold stuff in, and I can really relate with that. So but we do have something to look forward to whenever the book comes out. So thank you for sharing that.
Jenna Brocious [00:31:46]:
What am I working on today? Oh my gosh. You're so gonna laugh at me, But I've been digging through all of my old journals because I am trying to write about the past. So I've really been looking through all of my journals, and I found a whole bunch of my baby stuff from when I was little, so that filled me up today. And it was from my grandma's house, which She was such a special person in my, like, life, so it was just fun to reminisce with all my little things that were so special to me at one time.
Mahara Wayman [00:32:14]:
So, Jenna, thank you for sharing your story, and it's you know, I'm I love hearing all of the uh-huh moments that you've had along the way, especially your very vulnerable story about bringing up to your husband how you were concerned that 1 or both of you were gonna cheat on each other. Very, very powerful to have shared that. What is it that you're working on today? Any more prayer cards? Book. What's been happening in your world recently?
Jenna Brocious [00:32:44]:
So I have been reminiscing through all the journals with writing this book. It's really been nice to, like, go back and see my thoughts and my ideas then. But it's also just been filling me up to see all my little baby stuff that is also collected within these journals and my baby shoes and my baby blanket that my grandma gave me. So it's supposed been a beautiful little morning for me to reminisce through all these
Mahara Wayman [00:33:07]:
beautiful things. Oh, sounds like a fun sounds like a fun time. So What are some things that you can share with your with with my audience on how what you do on a regular basis to stay connected with your purpose and feel that you're badass. Do you have any tips for us?
Jenna Brocious [00:33:25]:
You know, I think that one thing that is so important and we don't do enough of it. But I think once we all start talking to each other, we realize how much more we have in common than we don't have in common. And I think it's so important if everybody could just open up and be a little bit more willing to share our experiences. Because, like, you and I know, sharing our experiences is how we learn, we grow, and we expand. So I just love it when people just, like, are vulnerable and give somebody else that moment. Or also if somebody's having a bad day, we are hard on them because they're mean to us because that bad day. I think there's something so sweet about being very kind to somebody that maybe is being mean or not nice. Because at the end of the day, we don't know what's going on internally or externally for that person.
Jenna Brocious [00:34:13]:
So I always just try to move with, like, loving kindness and a little bit of sparkle because Everybody needs it.
Mahara Wayman [00:34:20]:
Oh, I love a little bit of sparkle. And you're right. You know, if we can when we learn to look at our life through the lens of love, everything's different. You know, if somebody's if someone and I was I remember this from years ago. I don't know if I if maybe it was on an Oprah show. But this idea that when somebody is, you You know, yelling that you're giving you shit. You just smile at them and bless them in your mind or or, like, it's okay. Because if you don't engage, then the bully it's like When you smile at the bully and and, you know, wish him well, they're like, wait a second.
Mahara Wayman [00:34:51]:
That's not what I was expecting. You just say, what do you mean? What do you mean you wish me well? It's, you know, it's It's not engaging in the negativity or the fear. It's actually seen right through that. I'm not saying it's easy to do. Believe me. I know it's not easy to do, But that's a great tip for feeling for feeling grounded and aligned is recognize how you're feeling, but then smile anyway Or speak your truth about it. Mhmm. You don't have to you don't have to believe the way believe what people are saying about you or about the situation and take it on.
Mahara Wayman [00:35:25]:
Right?
Jenna Brocious [00:35:27]:
By the way, what people say about me is none of my business because it probably ain't true anyways.
Mahara Wayman [00:35:32]:
Why is that I mean, you know what? That's people are talking about that quite a bit these days. Why did it take us so long to think that, To understand that what you think about me is not my fault.
Jenna Brocious [00:35:42]:
I don't know. Well, I think also a lot of times when people have a misconception about you, that's their own issue on themselves. They're just projecting onto you. And like you said earlier in the intro, I feel like I've never really fit in or been part of, like, a certain group by any means because I've always just kinda been moving up in my life and changing friends and growing and changing. But I think that we just all just Kindness could help everything.
Mahara Wayman [00:36:08]:
Kindness is everything. It really is. Awesome. Jenna, thank you for this conversation. Is there anything that I haven't touched that you'd like to share with the audience.
Jenna Brocious [00:36:18]:
You know, I think it's so important to remember, and this will probably make me cry, is just because we came from 1 situation doesn't mean that makes who we are or where we're going, and we have the opportunity at any point in time to change the route, turn the corner, A move a different direction because we don't have to be in survival mode. We can be in thriving mode.
Mahara Wayman [00:36:40]:
So so powerful and so true. So, really, Those of you that are listening, another challenge for you. If you have ever found yourself or perhaps currently have found yourself Asking, is this all there is? What am I you know, what's next for me? Reach out. Like Jenna mentioned, when we can be vulnerable And connect with each other. We that's when magic happens. So reach out if you are wanting to change your world in some way. Ask for help and just be prepared for the changes. Because if you're willing to do the work, then, boy, the universe is willing to support you in whatever your dreams are, whatever your goals are.
Mahara Wayman [00:37:21]:
And as I say on almost every podcast, it starts with hand on heart making a declaration that you matter. My name is Mahara Wayman. I have been chatting with Jenna today, the beautiful Jenna brochure. She's got these amazing prayer cards available. I'm gonna drop the link in the show notes so that you can get your own set. I'll see you next week on the art of badassery. Thank you for tuning in to the art of badassery. I hope you enjoyed today's episode and gained valuable insights fights to help unleash your inner badass.
Mahara Wayman [00:37:57]:
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