Mahara Wayman [00:00:05]:
Welcome to the art of badassery where I explore what it takes to live life on your own terms. Break free from the status quo and unleash your inner badass. Whether you're a rebel at heart or simply seeking inspiration to step outside your comfort zone, this podcast is for you. I'm your host, Mahara Wayman. And each week, I dive into the stories, insights, and strategies of those who've mastered the art of badassery and are living life to the fullest. They smile when no one is lucky.
Mahara Wayman [00:00:41]:
Hello, and welcome back to another episode of the art of badassery podcast. My name is Mahara Wayman. And today, I'm so excited. I've got The most incredible guest in the studio with me, Kayla Burch. Now Kayla's journey through life isn't your typical road map Hailing from the heartland of Oklahoma, she's not just a mom, a wife, and an enthusiast for the great outdoors. She is absolute proof To the power of rolling with the punches. Her story began with a very clear vision of family life. But beyond that, well, She's been riding the waves of fate with an easygoing spirit that's downright contagious.
Mahara Wayman [00:01:20]:
Currently calling Oklahoma home with her husband and 4 kids, Kayla finds joy in the simple yet profound moments, whether exploring nature or busting a move on the dance floor. And if that wasn't badass enough, she's recently picked up painting, adding some vibrant strokes to her journey. But that's not all. Kayla has just hit another milestone. She's not only living an extraordinary life, she's also a transformational coach. With her unique perspective and experiences, She guides others through their transformations, helping them tap into their true potential and embrace the chaos of change. And here's the cherry on top. Kayla has just published her 1st book titled Beyond Illusion, Awakening the Peace Within.
Mahara Wayman [00:02:06]:
I'm so excited. It's so good. This book is a deep dive into her insights and wisdom, offering a guide to finding inner peace amidst slice, twists, and turns. So buckle up, everybody. Grab your favorite drink. We are gonna dive into Kayla Burch's extraordinary story, a narrative that embraces the unexpected, Finding strength in spontaneity and unlocking the true essence of badassery. That's why she's here today. Get ready for a conversation that is as real as it gets.
Mahara Wayman [00:02:36]:
Kayla, welcome.
Kayla Burch [00:02:38]:
Oh, thank you so much for that. I'm so excited to be here today.
Mahara Wayman [00:02:42]:
We're We're gonna have a lot of fun.
Kayla Burch [00:02:44]:
Yeah. We always do.
Mahara Wayman [00:02:46]:
We always do. I Mhmm. Kayla's Kayla's my coach, folks. I have a few, and she has been instrumental in supporting me on my journey, and I just wanna say thank you from the outset for that. But what really struck me from The information that that you've sent me and our conversations to to this point has been your ability to roll with the punches because That's hard. When life throws us a curveball, so many of us, myself included, sometimes just get flattened for a bit. Talk to us about when you first noticed that you had this ability to do that because I'm intrigued.
Kayla Burch [00:03:24]:
Yeah. That's, interesting. And what just came to my mind was that life itself is the curve ball. And so what I realized is that We think we have these we have these expectations of what it should be, and, that's really the curve ball in our life is our expectations. And so what I realized along the way is that when you're just open and you're just flowing with the flow of life, things don't Sideswipe you because the expectations have been a little bit shifted. And, you know, the question of when did this start, I don't know. I feel like I've always been like this my whole life just, You know that saying expect the unexpected? That's kind of what, like, I feel like I've always loved my, life by, and that's the only expectations there are is that You never know what's gonna happen. And when you're just really open and you're willing to jump on that boat and go down the river, whatever life throws your way and what their flows and the twists and the turns and knowing that there's gonna be challenges.
Kayla Burch [00:04:20]:
When those challenges show up at your front door, You're not shocked by them because that is truly what you expected. You knew it was coming. So I think that has just been something that I've been Able and willing and, accepting of my my whole life.
Mahara Wayman [00:04:34]:
Were your parents that way? Because all I can picture is, You know, as we grow up in in western civilization and in this era that we're in, there are so many expectations. Go to school. Do well in school. Do your best. You know? Be be a polite person. Be nice. You know? Do what you're told. Do what your parents ask you.
Mahara Wayman [00:04:56]:
Get a good job. There's so many expectations along the way. When did you first start to see that you looked at the world a little bit differently. And did your parents do so as well?
Kayla Burch [00:05:09]:
Yeah. That's a really, That's a really great question. No. I don't think my neither of my parents are really free flowing. I think they're both relatively rigid in their own in their own right. There are some levels of free flowingness within them. My dad was in the military, so things were very, structured for me growing up, and they were high expectations, honestly. But what I realized was that they were his expectations, not mine.
Kayla Burch [00:05:36]:
And We can't hold anybody else to a a standard, and we just we just really can't. And, so I think that was my biggest insight Growing up is that, we can't really expect things of others. And when we do expect things from others, people, we We normally don't, we don't get that fulfillment because other people don't understand our expectations, and there's no way they can meet them because they're not us. And another thing is is that we're not very clear on our expectations either. And the only time we realized we had an expectation oftentimes is when it wasn't met and we're then we're disappointed. So I think there's a lot of different things that, that go into that.
Mahara Wayman [00:06:15]:
Would you say and thank you for that explanation. Would you say that our expectations are based on what we want for ourselves? We may say that we want it from others, but, really, it's something that we expect. There's that word again.
Kayla Burch [00:06:29]:
Mhmm. Expect. Yeah. We expect it. We, we deserve a certain, we deserve something, you know, in particular. We deserve the grade. We deserve Deserve the relationship or the acknowledgement. And so it's really from a place from it's from a self centered place.
Kayla Burch [00:06:45]:
But oftentimes, we think it's maybe we're serving somebody else or for their service or, any of those different things. But, yeah, those expectations are typically come from that very self centered, place, which is it's not a saying that's bad to be self centered. We're the center of our own world. We can't be anything but. Right? But we have to recognize that We're not the center of somebody else's world because they're the center of their world. And so we can't expect to take that place, and we can't expect other people to, serve and give to us, because we're the only people that can fulfill ourselves. And so oftentimes, we're reaching outside of us to get that fulfillment with their grade or their relationship or the love or the job. And so the expectation is that the job or insert, you know, whatever you're, like, you're wanting fills you up.
Kayla Burch [00:07:34]:
It's what gives you your satisfaction and your peace and your joy and your happiness, But those things can never provide that. So then we're constantly coming from behind because of that very, real fact that We're seeking outside of us for something to complete us.
Mahara Wayman [00:07:52]:
Sounds a bit like the chicken and the egg. You know, that question, what came first, the chicken or the egg? But I'm curious as I picture you moving through your your life. You've got your marriage. You have kids. You've got friends and family and a beautiful business. Can you share with us any examples of when your way of thinking kinda crashed up against somebody else's or societies in general, and it led you to go, okay. I gotta rethink this, or I gotta I gotta buckle down in my in my beliefs because It just seems like a a recipe for disaster, quite frankly.
Kayla Burch [00:08:27]:
Oh, yeah. That's such a good thing. So, I would say my whole life. My mom says that if, my mom always always said that, and she still says it about me, that if, somebody says it's black, I'll say it's gray. Or if somebody says it's, you know, purple, I'll say it's violet, you know, whatever. And I just have to be a little bit different, and it's not from a place that I have to do it. It's not my ego saying I have to do it differently or I have to be right. It's from the space of, But it can be different.
Kayla Burch [00:08:56]:
Right? But but it can be. You know? The way I see it doesn't have to be the way you see it, and I can be right and you can be right All at the same time. So that concept would have been very helpful for me growing up and, up until the last probably before the last year. The concept of that we can all be right, it was not something I realized. So for a while, I was trying to prove my rightness, in certain areas. But I would say my my whole life is a story of, me butting up against, societal expectations or standards or, you know, expectations of other people and just the way that I like to operate and think is a little bit outside of just that standard norm. And so it's that Constant butting heads, but I've never been one to back down from it because I also, had the awareness that my way doesn't have to be Your way or somebody else's way. I just know it's my way.
Kayla Burch [00:09:50]:
You know? And so if it's gonna be my way, it's my way. You can join. You can agree. You don't have to. It doesn't matter. I don't have to change it just because you don't agree with it. So that's kind of just been, like, my whole life of of a headbutt.
Mahara Wayman [00:10:03]:
Okay. Quite quite the badass. And I'm curious. You said up until a year ago, did that by any chance coincide with your desire to write the book. I take long for you to write this book, and we're gonna talk about that.
Kayla Burch [00:10:18]:
Mhmm. Yeah. So I've wanted to write a book for a while. I just didn't always know what subject it was gonna be over. And so I would say About a year ago was when I really came to terms with this very expansive state and really allowed more of this expansiveness into my life where I, started working hard on shedding stories that weren't mine, And understanding that there's a lot of, past traumas that needed to be kinda sorted through. Even if I didn't know what they were or address them head on. I knew that I was moving through a lot of, numbness in my life from me numbing myself to, the situations that I was in, Which is another thing that helped me be able to pivot. I mean, I was relatively numb to my own personal emotions, and I could pivot very quickly because I wasn't very attached to anything, as a defense.
Kayla Burch [00:11:15]:
So when I started to really sort through that, that's when I really have the had this awareness, and ability to shift. But with the book, that's been kind of a, ongoing thing over the last year when I was trying to figure out how to present it to people in a way that was really, helpful and really help understand and expand, but wasn't, like, too much because it can be a lot of different, concepts that are kind of hard to wrap your mind around sometimes if not familiar with them. And so it's a lot of concepts that help open you up. And then so it goes from concepts. So then whenever you have the experience. You understand what the experience is, and we can go into that later too if you have questions on that.
Mahara Wayman [00:11:56]:
Beautiful. What did you learn about yourself writing this book?
Kayla Burch [00:11:59]:
Oh, man.
Mahara Wayman [00:12:00]:
I know there's lots, but I want you to give me
Kayla Burch [00:12:02]:
I think the biggest thing is just reaffirming. I used to think I was so stupid. Like, I used to think I was the dumbest person there ever was, and, I just never thought I was capable. You know? I avoided Situations that would highlight what I felt were, like, my dumbness, I'll say. Like, I was just, god, I'm so stupid. Right? I just don't know anything. And that started to shift, I mean, for quite a while. For the last couple years, I started to realize those stories weren't true.
Kayla Burch [00:12:30]:
But writing this book and Really just the ease of writing the book really was just like, man. Like, we create stories. Like, we make up things in our head, and then we validate all the time through experience. And so I think that was just my biggest awareness. It's just this highlighted of how I've, lived my life with The stories that I've made up in my head about who I am or and who I'm not. And so it was such a huge highlight to to that throughout the process of writing.
Mahara Wayman [00:12:58]:
Oh my goodness. Congratulations. I know from the work that I do with my clients and the work I've done for myself that to your point, we are great storytellers, And we have bought into the bullshit so many times for so many eon centuries. I think it's something that human it's the part of the human condition. So So I wanna congratulate you for being brave enough to look at those stories because I know from experience what it's The fear that comes with questioning, but I I I'm not good enough. I shouldn't speak in this room. I shouldn't contribute to this conversation. I should just, you know, put my head down and smile and, you know, all of those things that we say to ourselves.
Mahara Wayman [00:13:39]:
I'm curious though. How did The people around you react when you started to stand in your truth. No.
Kayla Burch [00:13:53]:
It was very uncomfortable for a lot of people. I mean, you know, it wasn't such a shock because, Like I we'd already talked about, I'm I've been like this pretty much my whole life. You know? If I if I think something, then I think that. I was less, I was more egotistical driven back then, right, like, where I needed to prove that to others. And so the big shift was me just kind of, There was no fight. You know? It was just this is how it is, and I have no fight in me. You know? You can you can see it or you don't have to. It doesn't really matter.
Kayla Burch [00:14:23]:
And So I think it was a it was pretty uncomfortable for, for some people in my life, especially those that have known me the longest, like, since birth. And, those people, I think it was a big, a little bit of an adjustment, but it's really helped I think it's really helped everybody, grow and start To find their center as well, when we're not all just kind of, like, going on this, like, you know, back and forth flow, And we can all just be centered in our own right.
Mahara Wayman [00:14:50]:
I think it's one of the the most beautiful aspects of personal growth that not a lot of us talk about, which is The effect that it has on those around us. Like, there is a residual effect. You know, when I'm happy and I can speak my truth, and I'm giving other people to speak their truth. And, guys, I'm not talking about humongous revelations. Sometimes it's as simple as just being honest about how you're feeling in the moment. When I can say to my kids, guys, I need a break. You're you know what? Mommy's not feeling so well. Then it gives them the opportune permission to say, oh, it's okay to To tell mommy how I'm really feeling.
Mahara Wayman [00:15:27]:
And I've I've kinda made it very simplistic, but it can be that simple. So one of the I I love what you're saying, Kayla, is that while you stepped into your truth and developed your strength and your badassery in accepting what Stories worked for you and what stories didn't, you, in essence, gave those around you permission to do the same. So it's not a it's not a flick of the switch And everybody is happy go lucky, but it is an evolution. And when you're once you get on it, man, you don't wanna get off that boat. Right. It feels good.
Kayla Burch [00:15:59]:
Yeah. And it's so interesting even hearing you talk about that is because I just have these 2 visions of it's like it feels like it's the hardest. So, like, those in my In my household. Right? So my 4 children and my husband, there was no shift. I've always been like this with them. Right? That's it. There's always been that true self that's shown up, in those relationships without, without hiding, but it's the people Just outside. Right? Just outside of that, my household that are still very close to me that, like I said, we're there from all of the different stages.
Kayla Burch [00:16:31]:
And, so sometimes it can be really difficult to step into. That's where I would default back to kind of my old behaviors, my old responses and my old stories because I was aware my stories developed. And I think that's really important for people to understand Some people feel like they're not, aligned or congruent or being authentic because, like, maybe in this situation, They're a certain way, but then when they're around other people, they're not. And it's because oftentimes, those are the people or the type of people that your stories originated in. And so it becomes very easy to get that protection back up and use those stories. This is what they are. They're our protections. They're our defenses.
Kayla Burch [00:17:13]:
So thank goodness we have them. So then we put those defenses back up, and we default back to that in those more familiar situations.
Mahara Wayman [00:17:21]:
So would you say then that, really, our responsibility lies in questioning whether the story works for us still? Because what I heard you say was there are situations when we do behave a certain way because it it serves a purpose. It's perhaps those People trigger that story, but that story evolved for a reason. The question is, does a reason still exist?
Kayla Burch [00:17:45]:
Yes. And are we aware of why we're doing it? So oftentimes, they were like, so as a child, You don't necessarily have the same level of autonomy and voice that you do now as an adult. Right? So if something happens, you don't you can't take care of yourself. Right? So you have to have those defenses and those, mechanisms set into place for survival. And so now we can default back into those, more survival modes, but we forget that we're an adult and we can take care of ourselves so we don't have to anymore. And so it's just it's just asking yourself what, What has shifted here? How did it serve me then to help me survive, if you will, through my childhood or through my whatever, this circumstance. And now how does it no longer serve me? And what do I need to learn or, take from it? But it gets to the point where, you You know, most stories don't actually, all stories never serve us. These defenses that our ego puts up, they they no longer, belong Because we start to realize that, there's nothing outside of us to to give us anything.
Kayla Burch [00:18:54]:
And once you realize that no nothing outside of you gives you anything, not your relationship, not your children, not your husband, not your spouse, not nobody outside of you gives you anything, then there's no need for the story. Right? There's no need for the protection because what are you protecting yourself from? The whole time, what we're really protecting yourself from is from ourselves, but we think it's from other people. And so it's that beautiful thing that once you start to realize that your whole world happens inside of you. That's the only place that's happening. And when you realize that, there what's the need for a story?
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Mahara Wayman [00:20:20]:
Click the link in the show notes and power up your journey today. The world needs more of your badassery. Here's to you. But here's the thing. And I don't know if if anybody listening right now is thinking the same same way. I'm very open, and I you know, you and I had these great all the time. But I feel even as as consciousness that that I have that I could get my I could wrap myself around and get lost in a hole of well, then what the fuck? Like, do I just sit here in my room and stare out the window all day because nothing outside is going to to bring me joy? You know, like, I can see how it could there's such a fine line between functioning as an adult in, you know, in the year 2023 in North America And just a blob of consciousness going so WTF.
Kayla Burch [00:21:16]:
Mhmm. Well, that's the point. Right? The point is to experience the world, Right? And to be that window for, experience through us. So the question is, do I just sit here and do nothing? Well, you could. Right? You could, and you could be peaceful. Right? You could, and that could be your peace. But it's like, where's the fun in that? You know? Like, it's not saying you can't go outside and experience the beautiful nature or the painting, you know, or the dancing or the or the people in your life. It's it's the deep understanding that it's not those things that are bringing the joy and the peace.
Kayla Burch [00:21:57]:
The peace and the joy are generated from within. So mhmm. Yeah.
Mahara Wayman [00:22:02]:
Why do you think that idea resonates more easily with some people than others because you're you and I've been that type of person where it's like, look at. I don't have time for that shit. I just need to get this job done. I just need to get the job. I just need to get I need to get to work, or I need to get to the babysitters. And we we consciously tune out of perhaps what we know inside because it seems I don't know. What's why do you think that is? Like, some people are just,
Kayla Burch [00:22:32]:
Mhmm. Because some people, we've built these stories so strongly. And if this 1 linchpin to this one Story gets removed with full awareness, and the whole thing crumbles. Right? And it just all falls down. And so Defense. Right? Subconsciously, we know when we bring full awareness and light to that one little linchpin. Once it's gone, it's all gone, and it becomes really hard to uphold our life in the same way. And so some people aren't ready for that, And they might not ever be ready in this lifetime.
Kayla Burch [00:23:08]:
Some people are so ingrained in their ideas and the their beliefs that it's very difficult to let go of because it's very hard. And we've been taught so much that being uncomfortable is something to fear and to avoid, And this is what it is. That that linchpin is the discomfort. Right? The pulling of the linchpin is setting in a fire And allowing whatever is right in front of you to just be right in front of you without any manipulation, without trying to change And make it happy. Right? It's not toxic positivity. It's this sucks. Right? This is uncomfortable. I am mad.
Kayla Burch [00:23:43]:
I am angry. I am resentful, And I'm gonna set in this anger and this resentment as it washes over me. So then I can look around and with my new awareness say, Now what? Right now I can go with the natural flow of life instead of creating resistance, but instead of building a dam, and making the water just go around us so we don't feel the huge rush of the water. Right? That's what that that's what that looks like. So The the answer is that some people just aren't ready in that phase of life because of they subconsciously know what will happen afterwards, and that's changed, and that's personal responsibility. A lot of people don't like to take personal responsibility because it's responsibility. And it seems like a lot, but it's, actually a weight lifted off your shoulders when you realize that nobody else is pulling your strings. You created the strings, and you're the one pulling them.
Mahara Wayman [00:24:34]:
It's a huge lesson for us as humans To experience. And I think you're right. Some people this this just may not be their time. But and it's it for me, it's one of the things that you you You need to trust to experience it, and then you'll get a taste of it. Right? I have all of these words written in my office, you know, believe, surrender, trust. We do have, you know, all of these these gentle reminders that there is something bigger than me at work here. And I'm sure our listeners would agree. Regardless of what your faith is, I think everyone, if given the opportunity, Can could share an example of a recognition in their lifetime when they knew they knew there was something bigger than them.
Mahara Wayman [00:25:22]:
I I know there's something outside of me, bigger than me, either directing or being right beside me. So thank you for that explanation. Let's talk about the work that you do. I've been very fortunate. We met in a course earlier this year, and and we've been working together since. But what got you into this into coaching? Let's talk about that.
Kayla Burch [00:25:45]:
Yeah. So, That's where the flow of life happens. Right? So I was, I oh, gosh. When I first started coaching, I think I had, an online boutique. And I don't even know how I got to an online boutique. I didn't like clothes. Like, I don't know. I don't shop.
Kayla Burch [00:25:58]:
I don't know what happened. Right? But I was there. There I was with this online successful boutique. And, it was going great, and I hated it. I take a picture of myself in the clothes, and I'd look all cute and smile. And then as soon as I was done with the picture, I'd I'd physically, I'd be sweating. I'd be like, oh, I hate this. You know? I just didn't like it.
Kayla Burch [00:26:15]:
I was it was so out of alignment, but it was generating income. And it was one of the first times in my life where I was really generating an income for myself. At That time, we yeah. We had 4 kids by then. So I had all 4 kids. My husband was working, and I was just trying to find something outside of me to bring me joy. Right. I when I first we first got married after I had, my first daughter, I got very sick.
Kayla Burch [00:26:41]:
I very, really, really, really sick. I was in a wheelchair. Nobody knew what was wrong with me. It was like this whole health thing. It was, like, 2 years back and forth. And so I had gotten myself well, even though I they told me I never would, and there I was. And I thought, you know what? I like to talk to people. This is what I like about the, boutique is the the interactions with others.
Kayla Burch [00:27:03]:
Let's combine that with health coaching. So that's how I got into coaching was I became a health coach. And with my health coaching certification came a life coaching certification too. So I got both those certifications at the same time and started kind of, like, health and life coaching people. What I noticed is that I was always focusing on the life and less on the health because that's where the biggest impact is. Right? If you wanna be healthy, then you need to Figure out what's going on in your brain. And although I operated in a little bit of a different way then, that's really what I focused on. And so then that's That's what it was.
Kayla Burch [00:27:32]:
I just loved it. I ended up, getting a job, for a coaching company, and that really helped me, kind of Dialing on, like, kind of my own gifts and really expand in that way and which was really nice. And then I realized I just wanted to do some things on my own too. And so that's When I started to open up my own my own coaching, and it started as business coaching, last year. And just recently, it's really pivoted out of the business side in just Solely on, personal transformation, more spiritual teaching, and all of that. So that's kind of like the big journey. There's so many pivots, so many flows. Wasn't even pivoting.
Kayla Burch [00:28:07]:
Right? It was just allowing my allowing my journey to, to just to just flow, to just naturally see that this is flowing into this space. Let me do this, This is flowing into this space. Yes. It's time for this with no resistance. No, but I know better. No, but it needs to be like this, or no, but I already said I was gonna do this. It was just like, okay. It's time for that.
Kayla Burch [00:28:28]:
Okay. Now it's time for that.
Mahara Wayman [00:28:31]:
I'm so impressed. And when I grow up, I wanna be like you because I am still, Despite our work, find myself saying, universe, get with the program. That's not how I wanted it to be. And and, of course, you know, the universe just chuckles at me. So I think that's beautiful that you've given yourself permission to just flow. And I I can see look at the energy in your face. Like, you're just you're shining. Those of you that, you know, you're not watching the video, watch the video because she's just Her energy is through the roof.
Mahara Wayman [00:29:03]:
It's beautiful to watch. So you have allowed yourself to flow in and out of this service of helping others. Let's talk about the book. I have it, and I've just started it. And I'm just blown away by the energy within this book. So thank you for that. What what were you thinking when you first pen to paper, and you realize that it was flowing easily.
Kayla Burch [00:29:34]:
Nothing. There was, Not much thought into it. There's not much of me in the book, I should say. It is pure.
Mahara Wayman [00:29:46]:
I want you to repeat that and then explain it because people, they're gonna go, what the hell?
Kayla Burch [00:29:52]:
Yeah. Yeah. So when I say things like there's not much of me in there, it's, I think of the me as the ego, Right? Where it's my direction, my thought, my beliefs, my my whatever, my forum, whatever you wanna whatever you wanna call it. And so when you remove the me in your life, that's when the flow happens. Right? There's no Expectations. I had no expectations for this book. I didn't know if I was gonna actually publish it. And so, when I started writing, I was just like, well, of course, it's flowing through me because I'm allowing the flow of the energy and the information to come through me and onto paper, because there wasn't a lot of, I know better.
Kayla Burch [00:30:40]:
It should be like this. This is the direction. This is what I want. This is what I hope happens with this book or any of those things. It was just pure embodiment of the present moment.
Mahara Wayman [00:30:53]:
Gold. Gold. Congratulations on this book, and, of course, It's gonna be the how you show notes are gonna show with links how you can get your own copy of the book. But I just wanna say congratulations, and I understand this idea of when it's right, it's easy. And I'm a very creative person, and I've always known that about me that when I have an idea And it's and I don't have to fight for it. That's an idea. That's a gift from the universe. I it actually isn't me.
Mahara Wayman [00:31:23]:
I to your point, you just open up and you're a receptacle for for this great moment. So I love that you've experienced that with the book. And I do think that part of being badass is giving ourselves permission to just be And trust that something great is gonna come through, whether it's in, an authentic meditative process or just Giving yourself permission to listen to your gut as you walk through the day. Oh, I should phone my mom. Oh, you know what? I'm gonna go here. Oh, I think I would love to reach out to my girlfriend today. Those types of things, trusting your gut is also, you know, going with the flow. Beautiful.
Mahara Wayman [00:32:00]:
So what is next on the horizon for miss Kayla Burch?
Kayla Burch [00:32:04]:
Oh, man. Well, I think now is what I have played now as I'm pivoting more into those. I do online meditation, so those will be, starting up. I'm gonna start doing those weekly, starting in January where, it's a weekly meditation, of all virtual, A bit of a teaching and a q and a. I'm finding that to be really, a sweet spot for people. I'm doing a lot more in person events in my retreats, And so, have a handful of 1 to 1 clients that I'll keep. Maybe have a couple new ones here and there, but, my main focus is gonna be on, like, group events because I find The energy in group events to be really transformative. It's just a real big play on everybody whether that be in person or virtual.
Kayla Burch [00:32:48]:
So that's really that's really where the Or what's happening is just more, group events, more spiritual based. And when I say spiritual based, there's no dogma. There's no religion behind that. It's, it's just you coming home to you in what whatever filter whatever, Whatever filter you have to to see that, whether that be, you know, a certain religion or no religion, it all is is the essence of it is all the same. So that's what we work on, and we help you get that deeper connection to self so then you can have that deeper connection to, something Outside of you with a higher power.
Mahara Wayman [00:33:24]:
Sounds absolutely beautiful. I want to touch on your retreat because you had one Fairly recently. Well, I guess maybe it's been a couple months now. But retreats you already mentioned are in your future. What type of retreats do you offer your clients.
Kayla Burch [00:33:40]:
Yeah. So, it's, at this point, they'll be, like, 3 days 4 or 3 nights, 4 days, and it's a really, deep dive into self. It's a really kind of a lot of things get brought up very quickly in these retreats where, we do a lot of meditation. We do some sound work. We do some, like, meditative art practices as well. And then there's a deep, community, and, We also we go through processes where we can dig up, some things that are just kind of hidden in your subconscious, and we distill them right there. Right. So as they arise, we, work through it right then and there in a group setting, and it's very transformational.
Kayla Burch [00:34:19]:
And, Yeah. That's I mean, that's it. It's a lot of meditation, a lot of, contemplation, a lot of coaching, a lot of deep dive into the the self. That's all it's about is going inward to self, inward to self, inward to self.
Mahara Wayman [00:34:31]:
So, so good. And can people find out about upcoming retreats on your website?
Kayla Burch [00:34:35]:
Yep. Absolutely. It's all on my website, on caleb archcoaching.com. You'll have a link to the retreats. I have 1 in, I'll have 1 in spring and fall, so April is my, my next one. And then I also have, this will be the 1st year, but I'll be starting a retreat for, mothers and teen daughters as well. So I find that that be really important to that relationship and also to help, you know, teens really not have to navigate, life completely on their own and kinda start To get set up a little bit quicker on, on being willing and able to just find their own center and not just flow wherever the Society takes them. So those are but they're all on my website where you can find them there.
Mahara Wayman [00:35:16]:
Beautiful. Thank you so much for that. What else would you like To share with our audience.
Kayla Burch [00:35:22]:
No. I think that, I just really appreciate this opportunity to be able to share this work. I think it's so deep, and I think that so many are ready to, to go deeper and stop, with the surface level surface level healing is what I like to call it, and to actually go deeper to a place of, like, Real true peace. Like, peace that really takes you to, to your own center, and we don't just have to suffer. Most people don't know what it's like to not suffer, because suffering is our natural state. And even when we are happy, it's oftentimes coming from a place of suffering. So I just really appreciate the, opportunity and the ability to share that. You don't have to live like that.
Kayla Burch [00:36:03]:
You don't have to suffer. It can be peaceful, and that does not mean that everything is perfect. Not everything is perfect in my life. We could have 5 more hours of just me talking about the the things that would be more deemed as imperfect, But that doesn't change my relationship to my piece. And I think that that's a beautiful place to be able to get to and for people to know and be aware that it is attainable.
Mahara Wayman [00:36:26]:
Thank you for that. And I think it is such a an important component to being badass. Of course, this is what we talk about on the show all the time is Being badass isn't about being perfect or being all of these outside goals. It is about accepting that you matter And that whatever you're feeling in the moment is valid, and it's okay to be uncomfortable. Right? I I love that you mentioned that earlier. It is it's okay, and we've We've grown up in a society that tells us it's not okay. You know, the minute the baby starts to cry, you don't cry. Don't cry.
Mahara Wayman [00:36:58]:
Don't cry. Or, you know, or As a teenager, I remember my being told, you know, if you don't stop crying, I'll give you something to cry about. Like, oh my god. Can you imagine? I probably even said that to my children, but It's okay for us now to change that.
Kayla Burch [00:37:13]:
If it
Mahara Wayman [00:37:14]:
doesn't work for us, we can change it. We can sit in our discomfort With the knowledge that this is part of the journey. Life is happening for us. It's not happening to us. And while it may not be easy To sit in nonresistance. It is so worth the effort. So, Kayla, I love what you're doing and the work that you're bringing to the world. It's so needed.
Mahara Wayman [00:37:35]:
Thank you for that, and thank you for chatting with me today.
Kayla Burch [00:37:38]:
Thank you for having me.
Mahara Wayman [00:37:40]:
Thank you for joining us today on another episode of the art of badassery today. My guest was Kayla Burch, Transformational coach, extraordinaire, and brand new author. We will see you next week on the art of badassery, and please Share this conversation with anybody that you think would benefit from it. Have a great day, everyone.
Mahara Wayman [00:37:59]:
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