Mahara Wayman [00:00:05]:
Welcome to the art of badassery where I explore what it takes to live life on your own terms, break free from the status quo and unleash your inner badass. Whether you're a rebel at heart or simply seeking inspiration to step outside your comfort zone, this podcast is for you. I'm your host, Mahara Wayman. And each week, I dive into the stories, insights, and strategies of those who've mastered the art of badassery and are living life to the fullest. They smile when no one is lucky. Collaboration, communication, and connection. Hey, fierce women. Are you ready to break free from the monotony of everyday life and ignite your inner brilliance? Well, join me, your badass coach, and fellow coach, Jody Graham, for an empowering week at the awaken your brilliance retreat in the breathtaking Mexican Riviera from January 16th to 23, 2025.
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Mahara Wayman [00:01:45]:
And today, I'm so excited. I have a remarkable guest joining me in the studio, Lynn Green. Now Lynn's life has been a roller coaster ride right from the start. Raised by a tough Dominican mom with a lot of family secrets, she had to grow up fast to find her place. Now despite facing some really tough times, Lynn refused to let herself be a victim. Instead, she poured her energy into dreaming big and discovering a love of books and writing. Now living in sunny Orlando, Florida, Lyn's all about exploring and soaking up new experiences, but her real passion is helping others. It's something that she's been drawn to since she was a kid.
Mahara Wayman [00:02:26]:
So get ready, grab your favorite drink, and let's dive into Lynn's incredible story of resilience and finding a purpose. Welcome to the show, Lynn. Couldn't be more excited to have you here.
Lin Green [00:02:37]:
Thank you. Thank you so much for having me. I am thrilled and I can't wait to have this conversation with you.
Mahara Wayman [00:02:43]:
You know what? Me too. I love a woman with purpose. I gotta be honest. My purpose has changed many times in the years. When I was younger, I just wanted to be a mom. Then I I had kids. I'm like, I just wanna survive being a mom. Now that my kids were all grown, it's like, I wanna be an entrepreneur.
Mahara Wayman [00:03:00]:
But I I'm curious about how your purpose came to being. Can you tell us a
Lin Green [00:03:05]:
little bit? Yeah. So it's interesting. Right? I feel like we all kinda had that little inkling as young as I'd say maybe even 8. Right? There's always something within our childhood that leads us to ultimately what our our calling is or what our purpose is, I believe. I've had similar conversations with people too who have expressed the same thing. Like, yeah. It's like something about the number 8 is the magic number. But that's when you really start to notice the world around you.
Lin Green [00:03:37]:
I have remember vividly Oprah, have she had her her talk show at the time, and and my parents didn't under did they understood very little English. They barely spoke any English. So we would watch TV as we were learning the language. And Oprah was the place that I gravitated to, and I just loved the way she showed, people within the the guest that she had on that were doing all these amazing things or learning new things that they were, experiencing. Like, I'll tell you specifically. I wrote it about this in my book about how I wrote a research paper in elementary school on the topic of multiple personality disorders. And I imagine that the teacher looked at that paper and said, woah. You know? What is what is she watching and what is going on, basically? So that's when I noticed my love for people, my my care care for people.
Lin Green [00:04:37]:
There was, like, something in that episode that really made me wonder the hurt that people experience. And that's where my love for for wanting to help people came from. I feel like as early as that age, I started to realize it. And then into middle school is when I feel like that solidified for me.
Mahara Wayman [00:05:00]:
Great, great reference to watching Oprah. Of course, I grew up watching Oprah as well and she figured heavily in one of my stories. I don't think it's the one I've seen that I published, but but going back to that, you're a young child. You're watching something on television that really resonates with you. Can you describe that feeling? Mhmm. Of going, oh, like, how did that what was that like?
Lin Green [00:05:25]:
Yeah. And, you know, I feel like and if I'm really being honest, that's as we're talking, I'm I'm thinking about those emotions. Right? I would say during that time is when I started to experience some really was traumatic incidents. I was molested as a child, and it it was likely those experiences that that had me a little uneasy, you know, mentally, and maybe that's where that connection came from emotionally, and the interest, that was peaked from that. And so that that emotion, it was really raw. One of those things that you can remember as a kid when something
Mahara Wayman [00:06:19]:
I I do wanna call out that it's pretty awesome to recognize that even through a traumatic experience, you can see the light. Like, you can see that there was something more. Yes. In other words, you are more than that experience.
Lin Green [00:06:42]:
Yes. And, and it's, and it's interesting you say that because as I was thinking about talking to you today, I'm thinking, you know, bad ass moments in my life, you know, and and I thought about those those moments when I did experience that trauma and those, those situations that happened to me. My initial thought was I am not gonna be a victim. And maybe that victim word came from an Oprah show because what did I know about being a victim at such a young age? But I remember saying to myself, I am not going to let what whatever's going on with me the reason why this keeps happening to me to affect who I am going to become. And so I was decided very early on that I was going to to be successful in whatever it was that I did.
Mahara Wayman [00:07:33]:
Just go to hell yeah. I mean, really. Well, I so I'm not I'm not you know, no tongue in cheek. Seriously. Not every child that is traumatized or even adult that's traumatized is able to make that decision.
Lin Green [00:07:49]:
Who do you
Mahara Wayman [00:07:49]:
think you were?
Lin Green [00:07:52]:
Why? I think part of my the driving factor for me was because I I want to I've had developed a perfectionist mentality even early on because of the things that I was witnessing around me. The difficulties that my mother was having with, my brother at the time who was addicted to drugs, would often disappear. The stress that she was experiencing at the time, I remember saying I did not want to be in added stress. I wanted to be the best joy maybe in those moments and things that I could provide as much as I could control at that age, which was really just my studies. Right? My school, in my schooling. So I really focused on that. And and that's a double edged sword, and we we can talk about that because, developing that mentality such a such a young age is such a great responsibility for a kid. And and when when I took on the responsibility of making her happy, that was big.
Lin Green [00:09:06]:
That was big.
Mahara Wayman [00:09:07]:
Well, I think it's one of the biggest misunderstandings that we have as human beings is that that is our responsibility.
Lin Green [00:09:13]:
Mhmm.
Mahara Wayman [00:09:14]:
And children, especially, we think, oh, you know, yeah, I'll do that. I can fix that. I can fix that. And, of course, the challenge is is that you can't. It doesn't matter how many great grades you have or whatever you do, whatever what you do in the home. Your mom's story is her story, and you're not able to really affect that. But it leads me to my next spot, which is when did you realize that mama had secrets?
Lin Green [00:09:42]:
As early as during during those times. So I would say between the ages of 6 and 12.
Mahara Wayman [00:09:51]:
Okay.
Lin Green [00:09:51]:
I realized that my mom was holding a lot of things from us. And then, and and this is in in terms of I I believe she was doing so to protect us, because she didn't feel like the the things that were happening were, of course, gonna be any benefit for us to know we were children. And as a way to protect us from those things, I think she was withholding a lot. The the negative effect to that is that withholding really affected our relationship and our and our ability to bond as as mother and daughter because it it became more like, okay. It's obvious that something's going on. We see it. We feel it. We can sense it.
Lin Green [00:10:37]:
So why is no one talking about it? You know? Why are we just carry on, you know, carrying on, like nothing is happening when we clearly, things are changing. We're having to move, and and we're having to pick up the pieces. And, so that's about the time frame I'd say I I've started to realize.
Mahara Wayman [00:10:57]:
So what do you think that understanding, mommy's keeping something from us, what, if anything, did that make you? Like, how did that understanding affect your feelings for yourself?
Lin Green [00:11:14]:
Yeah. For myself as an individual, like, how that affected me. It it made me feel not worthy of receiving the information. You know, it it made me feel, like, maybe she thought I was incapable enough to receive it and and handle, the whatever it was, the the news and and the consequences. And so I I'd say for most of my life, I really did battle that, especially the the worthiness, the the value that comes from that and in relation to building relationships as well because the mother daughter relationship is foundational to the core of of who you are as as a woman. And that did affect that a little bit.
Mahara Wayman [00:12:05]:
Of course. How could it not? So what have you learned about yourself now that you've written a book? And, of course, I can see the book behind you, and I know what your book is about. But what did you learn about yourself through the writing of that book?
Lin Green [00:12:19]:
I learned that, number 1, I'm a badass, I'd say, because I decided to to take the power, into my own hands and tell my story, The regardless of anyone's feelings or concerns, I felt like it was it was more for me to share my story to help how others can it help others heal through the same thing. And so I I wanted to to do that, you know, by way of writing my book. It's the best way that I know how I express myself best in writing. Over the years, I've been doing a lot of speaking gauges, so I've gotten a little better at speaking. But I also learned that, being vulnerable, it was a little difficult for me, because I really had to dive deep into some of these experiences and relive them and recount them in a way that a reader would would understand and feel where I'm coming from. So the vulnerability aspect of it, yeah, that that was realization.
Mahara Wayman [00:13:26]:
I'm sure. So, do you think that you're delving into this having to be very vulnerable to go back and experience, did that in any way shed a light on your mom's behavior?
Lin Green [00:13:44]:
Yes. For sure. The so the book was birthed out of it, me trying to find some understanding. I wanted to understand, you know, they there's that saying that says, you know, our parents only did the best they could with what they had or, you know, with what they were capable of of parenting. And so it that really made me think about needing to dive deeper into where she came from. You know? Where how did this all begin? Who how does she become, you know, miss Teo Linda? You know, that that's her name. Everyone calls her Linda. But how did she become this strong, independent, powerful hustler of a woman? You know? So I I really went deep into those beginnings for her to understand where it all, you know, started to make its way into ultimately where we came around.
Lin Green [00:14:41]:
We have I have 3 siblings and a bonus sibling who's my my niece. And so I I really wanted to understand how that happened.
Mahara Wayman [00:14:51]:
But does the understand or did the understanding make a difference in how you in either your relationship or how you view your mother as a mom now that you had that? Absolutely. Yeah.
Lin Green [00:15:04]:
Absolutely. Yes. 100%. Because 1, it made me realize, why she is the way she is. And number 2, it made me realize that it doesn't matter what I did to try to win her love and her approval. She's just, you know, set and steadfast on on those beliefs because that is who she she is. That's how she built herself, her personality. And so when I came to that understanding, I no longer took it personally.
Lin Green [00:15:38]:
And now I see her with a level of compassion and and I can treat her with grace knowing that.
Mahara Wayman [00:15:46]:
Well, I just wanna say that that's really, really beautiful. And, you know, when people ask me what I do for living as I am a life coach, you know, a lot of people don't really know what I mean by that. But what you just said is is what we strive for is giving ourselves permission to go and do the the hard work. It's not easy. You talk yourself. You have to be very vulnerable to look at that. Holding up a mirror. And we don't always like what we see, even if we've, you know, even if we understand we know it, we've lived it, we still don't wanna look at it.
Mahara Wayman [00:16:18]:
But it's what do that, that we have the ability to find grace and compassion for ourselves and for others. And, you know, compassionate self forgiveness is is one of the keys to the work I do with people is teaching them how to do that. What is what did mom think about this, all of this that you've done? And now that you've written a book and, you know, her name, mama, is on the front page.
Lin Green [00:16:42]:
Yes. Well, first, she thought the book was solely about her. Okay. And when she found out it wasn't, she kept giving me suggestions on how to make it more about her.
Mahara Wayman [00:16:54]:
God, I absolutely love
Lin Green [00:16:55]:
that. That is her personality. That's what I'm working with here. So I did I I had to give her the breakdown. You know, it's it's yes. It's about you at the core, but primarily it's about our relationship. And I know that's that's been a point of contention with us in the past because I have tried you know, I've I've done my share of of therapy myself as I've tried to process a lot of these, these these emotions that I've had through the years and the feeling of, you know, what more can I possibly do? I got to that place at one point. And, we had the conversations and they weren't always well received.
Lin Green [00:17:35]:
You know? We there there was a lot of defensiveness, behind it. And so she missed the point at that time of, the the conversation was more so how it's affecting me and why it's important for you to hear me out on this. So in when I told her I was writing this book, I explained to her how I we've seen ourselves through a difficult time in our relationship, and I feel like other women experience the same thing as well. And why not help others heal through that relationship with the sharing of my story. So when she realized that, she she was very understanding. And I've since, had the book translated to Spanish, so she's currently reading through the Spanish, which is an entirely different experience. And it's exciting to see her go through through these initial chapters that she's gone through so far and see herself in them.
Mahara Wayman [00:18:31]:
Lynn, what a gift.
Lin Green [00:18:34]:
Thank you.
Mahara Wayman [00:18:35]:
Really? No. Seriously. What a gift. Because it's hard enough. I I I I've experienced a little bit of that, but not not, I think, to the same degree, but it is hard enough to do the inner work. Okay? Let's be really honest here. Nobody wakes up one day and says, oh, I can't wait to go into my childhood and cry. And, you know, devastated and and feel vulnerable and afraid all of these things that we can feel.
Mahara Wayman [00:18:59]:
So it takes an incredible amount of courage to do that, also known as badassery. But this flip side of that is when we acknowledge the actual gift of this type of work or even the recognition that we now may have for our parents or our siblings or whoever, that's a gift to them. I guess it's not a gift for ourselves. It's a gift to them. So, I just wanna call that out, but that is really badass because this this ain't easy, folks. Right? It ain't it's ain't easy.
Lin Green [00:19:31]:
No. It's not. And, you know, there's there's one key thing that that my book really describes. It's it's the the act of breaking these generational cycles. And it was important for me because I can't even begin to imagine having that carry on to my child. And it it and I was a single mom. I'd like to say before I even knew I was a single mom because I that was an interesting experience as it is and I write about that in the book, but I wanted to break that and from the very beginning, even as a single parent, as hard as it was for me to get there, I was determined. You know? I so much so, I didn't even have a partner and I got on birth control, while I was still breastfeeding.
Lin Green [00:20:25]:
And I said, no. I wanna focus on this one child for as long as I possibly can because I this is my responsibility and I need to make sure I have the best chance at creating a human being, you know. That's as far as I took it. And he happens to be my only blessing till this day. So I'm I'm very I'm very proud of that.
Mahara Wayman [00:20:49]:
Well, you know, I've always said in fact, one of my stories in in the book that I've written is about just how tough it is to be a mom, to be a good mom. It really is, it takes courage to be a mom. It's the hardest job in the world, I think, to be a mom. So I'm taking hats off to you on that. Where do you see okay. Let me back up. When you first had the idea to write the book, whatever you thought was gonna happen, is it has it matched now that the book is written? Or have you gone into a slightly different trajectory, or has does it feel different than what you were expecting?
Lin Green [00:21:26]:
No. And and so I am still at the, like the baby fresh aspect of that still because my book officially releases May 14th. So I what I have been doing thus far, the advanced copies that I have been able to to hand out to people for for feedback. The feedback I have gotten has been exactly what I wanted, And and I don't know that I can take full credit for that because I I know it was only when my my hands were on that keyboard. I knew it was it was coming from here and here. But before that, I know he was guiding me, yes, to to exactly what it was I needed to share. And so a lot of the things in the book, has really, really touched people in in the reading of of the book because I have a couple of experiences with losses with within you know, throughout my years. But, yes, I mean, I I feel like so far, and we haven't officially launched.
Lin Green [00:22:35]:
It's been amazing that just the response that I've been getting from people, and and that is really all I could ask for. My hope is that it reaches everyone in the way that I intended to.
Mahara Wayman [00:22:48]:
I have a feeling it will. I'm just telling you. I got I got a feeling. And the reason I say that is that I truly believe that when the more authentic we can be Mhmm. The easier it is for our true purpose to come to to to come to light because we are listening. Right? When we're ourselves, we're we're connected. We're listening. It takes tremendous amount of courage to step up and and agree to move forward with that purpose.
Mahara Wayman [00:23:18]:
But I I believe that when you have the calling, whatever it is, even if, you know, and it's not to say that everybody's only big purposes are are worthwhile. If your purpose is to be the best garbage man in your lifetime, that's a great perp you know, that's that's a purpose too. But when we do it and we step into it, it's because it's needed.
Lin Green [00:23:40]:
Absolutely.
Mahara Wayman [00:23:41]:
No. We know this is needed. And so I I'm sure that you will see that everybody that needs your book will will hear you. Yes. So this this podcast is gonna drop after the book is released. But don't worry, guys. Check the show notes because all of the ways that you can purchase this book and be in contact with Lynn are going to be in the show notes. So okay.
Mahara Wayman [00:24:05]:
You are sing are you still single? Are you still single, Ma? I know you're about to work
Lin Green [00:24:08]:
No. I'm I'm married 10 years this year.
Mahara Wayman [00:24:12]:
Congratulations.
Lin Green [00:24:13]:
Okay. Thank you.
Mahara Wayman [00:24:15]:
You you've had some ups and downs. You found discovered the love of writing. You decided to write this amazing book, in a great relationship, married. You've got this this your son is how old? I think he's
Lin Green [00:24:26]:
23 now. What? Yep.
Mahara Wayman [00:24:29]:
He has a 23 year old. What's going on?
Lin Green [00:24:31]:
Yes. Just turned 23 April 1st.
Mahara Wayman [00:24:35]:
Wow. What's next on the horizon for you? Is there another book in the works?
Lin Green [00:24:40]:
Absolutely. So I I wanted to, after all these talks with my mom about how she wanted the book to be more about her, I wanted to give her a little bit of an opportunity to to reveal some of those things that she was keeping and the reasons why and give other women the opportunity to do the same anonymously or not. Just I think it's important to leave somewhat of a revelation of secrets, mama secrets, a revelation of secrets, mama secrets. Not the working title, but pretty much the idea. And then I want to explore my relationship with my father, my biological father who I've not had a relationship with pretty much, all of my life. And so while I have the opportunity and and he's still living, I want to explore that. My goal is to be able to dive into the realities of of a lot of what we face, what makes us who we are, and those little things that maybe didn't go so well in our lives that if shared could help other people relate and help them get through those difficult moments. So I have a a couple ideas in in the works, but in the meantime, I'm also doing a lot of things within the community.
Lin Green [00:26:14]:
I have a couple of groups that I'm a part of and and, we're doing a lot of hope, inspiration, and healing work. So public speaking engagements. I'm I'm busy. So busy. Beyond my full time job.
Mahara Wayman [00:26:29]:
Oh my goodness. I'm I'm glad that you brought up going back to your mom's story because one of the questions that I thought of earlier that I wanted to ask was now that you are an adult, you've written a story, what do you think you would have liked to have have happened instead of what did?
Lin Green [00:26:47]:
Mhmm. Well, I certainly would have wanted to have the kind of relationship mother daughter relationship where, she was more involved. More conversations. Not just I'm a mom, you have to go to school, get good grades, come back home, do your chores. What's that saying? Speak only when spoken to kind of understanding and be a child and stay out of grown folks' business. You know. I I wish that it would have been more interactive where we would have had more of a relationship. And so we we didn't have that much growing up.
Lin Green [00:27:34]:
And a lot of it I know is because she was consumed with so many other worries and and things that were going on. We it's interesting. She's she's 78 years old now, and we talked a little bit about, you know, our our mother, where we are in the scope of, you know, their we're now caring for them.
Mahara Wayman [00:27:55]:
Mhmm.
Lin Green [00:27:55]:
You know, what we talked previously. And that's where we are. And in that space, I am learning so much. She when you talk about she didn't say much before, now she's saying it all. You know?
Mahara Wayman [00:28:08]:
Well, it's interesting because at the start of our conversation, when you we were talking about the the title of your book and that your mom has secrets, I was wondering, is it that you wanted to know the secrets? But what you've just answered, it's not about knowing the secret. It's it's about still having a relationship. And I think that's really important to call out because, you know, children just wanna wanna feel that they matter. And it's a great recognition and understanding that your mom did the best she could. She was so focused on other challenges that she was going through that she was unable to give you that that focus. But really, it's the it's not the knowing of the secret. It's the, wow. I think this secret is stopping you from connecting with me.
Lin Green [00:28:54]:
Yes.
Mahara Wayman [00:28:54]:
Right? Not hearted. Yeah. A big problem. To your point, you know, you were probably too young to understand or to like there are things that we don't want our children to know. I'm I'm a mom, But the hope is that those pressures, the pressures of motherhood or moving to a new country or all of the pressures that we feel, that it not take away from our ability to connect with our loved ones, whether it's our children or our siblings or parents. Because all we want in life is to feel that we're seen. I do believe that's the you know, we wanna feel seen and heard and safe. Right? I'm not Absolutely.
Mahara Wayman [00:29:33]:
Right? Yeah. I don't wanna know about the problems with the bank. I just wanna Right.
Lin Green [00:29:39]:
You can you can keep that. I don't even understand it, mom. You know, let's just let's just talk about how school went today and how you're feeling today and what happened. And and I think if we had had those conversations, during that those years when I experienced those, that the the child molestation and when I experienced, those experiences with sexual abuse, that maybe it could have helped me. You know? Maybe, knowing those things would have shifted the way, you know, we carried about, you know, in our day to day. And, it would have made me feel a little bit more protected maybe, if we had been able to have those conversations. You
Mahara Wayman [00:30:26]:
know. Well, I think yeah. To your point, when I think parents have a duty to raise our children in a way that they can communicate Mhmm. In a in a way that they feel heard. If I say something, they're gonna pay attention. So that when we are when we have when we have a tough time, when somebody's hurt us, we are not afraid to say it or it the act of sharing. You're so used to sharing with with mom and dad and brothers and sisters that it never occurs to you not to share. Does that make
Lin Green [00:31:03]:
sense? Yes.
Mahara Wayman [00:31:04]:
But it it's it's cyclical. Right? Because if if if my mom didn't know how to do that, then who's gonna teach me? So, you know, people talk about generational trauma. And I think some people may not really understand what we mean by that or what is meant by that. But really, it can be as simple as, hey. Monkey see, monkey do. If monkey sees bad stuff and does bad stuff, then how am I gonna learn the how am I gonna learn anything different?
Lin Green [00:31:30]:
Right. Right. Absolutely. And, you know, in some aspects, how we created who I became as a parent. My my son, like I said, he's 23. He's a boy who doesn't like to communicate, but so much. And so I try as best as I possibly can to get him to tell me more, if anything. So I feel like those that, you know, that relationship with with my mom and how what I experienced growing up really made me want to do something different or at least be more mindful of the fact that, you know, especially nowadays, kids are experiencing a completely different life than what we've lived and different pressures, different, different issues.
Lin Green [00:32:18]:
And so we don't necessarily always understand it, but we should be open to to discussing it for sure.
Mahara Wayman [00:32:24]:
I I do believe that the greatest gift we can give anybody is the gift of our presence. Absolutely. So looking someone in the eye and saying, hey.
Lin Green [00:32:34]:
Yes.
Mahara Wayman [00:32:34]:
Yeah. I'm here. Oh my gosh. What a good story. Who are you? Wow. So lots of lessons learned. I'm so excited for your book to come out and for book 2 to come out. So if you were to give some advice to our listeners, 3 things that have really helped you to feel and act as a badass, what would they be?
Lin Green [00:32:59]:
Yeah, definitely. The foundation for me was spiritual practice. And I'm in listening to to some of your previous podcast that it was so nice to hear a lot that a lot in in everyone. That's a commonality. I feel like that's where it begins, right? Like, because that's where we renew ourselves. We renew our minds. We develop a growth mindset. And so that means, you know, conquering the not so nice stuff to get to that badass position.
Lin Green [00:33:34]:
So for sure, that is a major tip being able to develop a a spiritual practice and actually put that into place. Affirmations. It it's amazing how we don't realize that we the way we think sometimes and the things that we say internally affect the way that we act out within our lives. So I think it's important to to speak positivity into ourselves, and and a lot of that comes from that spiritual base as well. And just being able to have a good community around you of support that will remind you to give yourself grace, to forgive yourself and other people, you know, for the things that maybe they can't control. And ultimately setting boundaries, you know, is important, because I had to do that along the line, not just with my mother, but within my relationships as well. Setting boundaries was important. And, recognizing that sometimes you're just not gonna have a happy ending, but you you need to be okay with where you are and and develop a life that's built around just refreshing yourself daily and and being your best self.
Mahara Wayman [00:34:55]:
I love all of those points. All really, really great points. And I'm gonna make you laugh when I tell you the story because it made me think of it. My mom is still living. She's 98. And, she does have dementia, but we've been very close all of our lives. And I had a very bad breakup when I was a young adult. And I didn't wanna marry this guy, but I was still pissed that he broke up with me.
Mahara Wayman [00:35:20]:
Like, I was, like, you know, I was having fun. And I was bemoaning to my mom about this. And she looked at me very seriously and she said, sweetheart, you know, just because you you may not get married in this lifetime. And as soon as she said that, my hackles rose because I'm like, what? You should be, You can't say that to me. You know that's all I want is to be married. Like, how dare you? But she went on to say, but that doesn't mean you can't have an amazing life because you may not get married. Mhmm. I was devastated at first.
Mahara Wayman [00:35:55]:
And then 2 weeks later, I met my husband. No word-of-mouth. Her. But I thought it took courage for her to tell me that. Yeah. And it actually I feel like it took courage for me to hear it Because it was almost as if I because I thought about it a lot. I'm like, oh my god. What do you mean? What do you mean I could be happy without something I've dreamed about all my life? And I yeah.
Mahara Wayman [00:36:17]:
To realize, yeah, maybe I don't need that. Like and then, you know, I met my husband, and I've been happily married for 28 years. So
Lin Green [00:36:24]:
Oh, well You
Mahara Wayman [00:36:25]:
know, sometimes they're funny. They come up with the best best lines, but it Yes. It is important to recognize that the reality that sometimes things don't work out the way you want, but it doesn't mean that you can't be badass. It doesn't mean that you can't speak your truth. Mhmm.
Lin Green [00:36:41]:
So
Mahara Wayman [00:36:41]:
just going back over your points, develop some kind of a spiritual practice, whether that is, you know, Christian based, Catholic based, religious based, or not. It's just a it's just a recognition that there's more out there. And Mhmm. There's a there's a different plane that is in existence. Right? Once you recognize that, to me, it's very freeing. But Yes. Look for ways to to fill your cup and be happy. Mhmm.
Mahara Wayman [00:37:07]:
Unity. Ask for help. And and don't be afraid to ask for help, I think, is also what I heard in there because we just hope to be happy. We all deserve to be happy. Yeah. Fantastic. Well, you know what? Without a doubt, you are a badass. Really looking forward to your book coming out.
Mahara Wayman [00:37:22]:
And I wanna thank you again for spending time with me on my show today.
Lin Green [00:37:26]:
Thank you. Thank you for having me. Truly appreciative, and and thank you for all you're doing to spread just this message and and sharing other people's stories.
Mahara Wayman [00:37:36]:
It is absolutely my pleasure. I love doing this podcast so much. It's kind of ridiculous. I I laugh. Anyway, it's all good. Listeners, thank you for your for your patronage and for listening, and please give us some feedback on on this episode. Check the show notes as I've mentioned before. My name is Mahara.
Mahara Wayman [00:37:54]:
This has been the art of badassery. Tune in next week with a new guest. Take care, everyone. Thanks for tuning in to another badass episode. Your support means the world to me. So if you enjoyed what you heard today, don't forget to like, share, and rate the episode on your favorite podcast platform. Your feedback keeps the badassery flowing. And hey, if you're ready to unleash your inner badass and conquer whatever life throws your way, why not book a complimentary badass break through session? Just click the link in the show notes to schedule your session, and let's kick some serious butt together.
Mahara Wayman [00:38:30]:
Until next time, stay fearless, stay fabulous, and of course, stay badass. This is Mahara signing off.
